After a particularly bad break-up, it's normal to want to sift through the wreckage to see what went wrong. Not to say that the break-up from The Biologist was that nasty, but the urge is still there.
Was it me? Was it him? Was it the butterfly effect? Someone breathed wrong on the other side of the planet that resulted with The Biologist and I saying good-bye to one another. I'd like to think that relationships are a little more teflon coated than that, but who can say?
With him, I thought I had it all. Looking back, I've had that same feeling with quite a few people. Am I just the hopeful optimist that is forever putting on those rose-colored glasses, overlooking what should have been obvious signs? Now, looking back, it seems there were quite a few signs that I ignored. Stuff that I think would have been a red flag with anyone else.
For instance, he was a previous cheater. And not just a little bit. And cheating is something that is absolutely non-negotiable! Someone cheats on me and they do not get a second chance... period. At least, that's been my philosophy in the past. Why did I ignore that now? Did I think that he was just foolish in his youth and had changed? Do cheaters ever change? It seems like once a cheater, always a cheater. But the hopeful optimistic in me wanted to believe.
What is non-negotiable in your relationships? What are the things that you just cannot or will not put up with? And have you overlooked the warning signs because you thought maybe this time would be different?