I got a text message the other day that completely caught me off guard.
The general gist was: if you don't have happy things to say then I really don't want to hear from you. The text was more extensive than that, but the core was that. I said that basically she was asking to be downgraded from a friend to an acquaintance. Her response? Different is not less... I hope it brings us closer.
I've been sitting on that letting it marinade for the last 2 days and my opinion hasn't changed. True, different is not less in some instances. However, in this instance it is. If I'm not picking up the phone to share the hardships and trials I'm having in my life, then you certainly are not on the list of people I call when things are going great. That's just the way it is...
You either hear both or you hear nothing. After all, life is about balance. You don't get to benefit from one side of the relationship without being available for the other side.
I'm hoping she'll decide on a different stance. If not, there's not much I can do. For now, I'm just pretty sad about it.