So having said all that, lately Flash and I have been arguing a lot. And at the Sunriver race he was a pill a few times. He did a few dirty spooks that almost had me out of the saddle and they definitely wrenched my back up. Keep in mind, he wasn't actually spooking because he was afraid... he was just being kind of an asshole. Arguing with me, if you will. And rather than keeping things civil, I continued to argue back. And so it has gone. Escalating.
Finally, last night I decided that enough was enough. No more arguing.
I took Flash out for a ride and I let him pick the trail, the distance and the speed. When he went faster I just got out of his way and let him go. I could tell he was still looking for an argument but I didn't give him one. You want to go faster? Fine. Go. You want to go that way instead of this way? Fine. Go. You want to keep on going? Fine. Go.
Any you know what? After about 30 minutes he relaxed and really got into the ride. It was the best ride we've had together in quite a while. When he went by things that normally would be spook-worthy, for the most part he just ignored them. We had a blast.
And then it hit me. I haven't so much been riding my horse, rather I've been nagging my horse. And just like any man (gay or not... because Flash is most definitely gay) he apparently doesn't like to be nagged. He's been telling me to just shut up and ride. And I finally heard what he was saying.
You never listen to me...
Sorry, buddy. I'm listening now...