Wulfe and I have decided to give it another go.
I can hear the gasps, sighs and gnashing of teeth from here so before you do yourself an injury, let me explain...
When Wulfe called it off I was totally taken by surprise. I knew we were in a not good spot, but I also thought that was a very extreme measure given the kind of roadblock we were at. Plus the reason he gave for the breakup was one that I was unwilling to compromise on. Without getting into details, he wanted the option of going to a place I am unwilling and unable to go. He didn't like the ultimatum and decided it was too rigid for him...
After some serious soul searching he realized what he had and knew that having access to that one possible option was not enough to throw away everything else we have together. On so many levels we are a good match.
There are a couple of other things that the small break-up did for us. 1. He has let go of the fear and really opened himself up to me. 2. I have let the need to control everything go.
Those are major steps in the right direction for us both.
I still have a small reservation about him bailing at the first sign of trouble again... but it is a small fear at this point. Plus, only time will tell so no need to get all worried about it either. Another disagreement will arise and we will see how it goes.
I think the key is open communication... we just need to let the other one know where we are at.