We decided to Skype because I felt like this needed to be a face-to-face conversation. And I was right... after much discussion we both decided that it was better to just be friends. And it was a mutual decision reached by both of us independently...
There are things about his silence that I really didn't like. I understand needing time to sort things out... my point is that if you do need that, then say so. If I continue to harass you past you asking for some time, then you can ignore me. He did agree that probably wasn't the best way to handle things and apologized which I appreciated immensely.
We will remain friends, but there are things about our relationship that I will miss... we had a connection that was very deep (I think). There were times when I was just so in tune with him. Maybe that will continue... who knows?
I won't miss us both being too much the same. I think part of the key to relationship survival and success is having someone who is your counter-point to some extent. But then again, maybe not. After all, it's not like I've been super successful in that department.
All I can do is try to learn and grow...
Maybe you just need some time after your divorce to learn to love yourself again. It looks like you are turning to men to validate yourself.
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